Why is it that people who minimize, justify, and blame others for their behaviors are the very ones who are guilty of the things they accuse others of?
Have you seen the list of "criteria" for PAS? It just so happens that the 1st one on the list the other parent is definitely guilty of--now that he has detained my child without my agreement.
"Criteria I involves the active blocking of access or contact between the child and the absent parent."
Now, as one of my children has been "kid-napped" I made my first request for my child to "visit" me (the primary residential custodial parent for the majority of that child's life) on their first school break next month. This request was summarily denied (surprise, surprise).
That not only sounds like the "parental alienation" which the out-of-town parent was accusing me of (because he didn't want to pay for for the travel expenses) -- but he is in actuality now alienating my child from contact with me. Yes, parental alienation happens.
“Parental alienation happens, but there’s no clinical syndrome you can say in court and get away with. Richard Gardner was a charlatan, and hundreds of women and children across the country have been damaged because of his crazy idea. PAS is not in the DSM-IV and it never will be.” (Paul Jay Fink, professor of psychiatry at Temple University School of Medicine)
But the syndrome that he said my children had was just not the case with my children. It was a smoke screen to cover his abusive actions, and his neglectful in-actions.It is an adult disorder, not a child syndrome.
That parent has been threatening me with keeping the kids at the end of every summer for over a decade -- but this was the summer that parent finally acted on the "kid-napping."
Although I was accused of such "alienation" by the other parent (without cause) I did not withhold visitation contact through the years--even went as far as to pay for the air fare to get the kids to their visitation.
The pot calling the kettle black!
"PAS was also used to take children away from mothers who wanted to move away with the children, or asked for child support from fathers. The Gardner followers didn't seem to notice or care that PAS was not even a real mental health disorder, or that Gardner's writings showed that he had a biased, disrespectful view of women, and a perverted attitude about child abuse."
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