Why?

Because I said so!

 

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So that's when...

You know you've truly grown up when you realize your parents knew exactly what they were talking about.

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And don't forget...

... to slam the door! 

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Sure, today may be Valentine's Day, but what does that mean to the parent of teens? Well, in this land of madness it means that the teen spends a bunch of time & money preparing to have PDA time with their suitor after school, but treats the parents like crap. Ah, if only the suitor could see what real life is like with this teen --- before, during and after the slamming of the doors!

The madness of PAS

The true madness of PAS (Parental alienation syndrome) is that it is not a sickness of the child, but a malady of the parent.
PAS is not even a recognized disorder. That doesn't mean that parents can't (and don't) do things to annoy and alienate their children, it just means that PAS is being used by some abusive parents as a tactic to derail the beleaguered parent's attempts to protect their children from abuse (much more than the obvious physical abuse--more often emotional, psychological, financial).


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It's got to be some kind of record!

Just an ordinary day, getting the bills paid. But then I saw something out of the ordinary while paying the family's cell plan bill.

This below illustrates how many texts one of my teens sent during the last billing cycle:

It's got to be some kind of record! It is madness I tell you.

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prime duties of parenthood

You can click on the picture above to see where I found this quote. So many things grab my attention about the above quote. "Willful violation" and "primary duties of parenthood."
My ex had accused me for so long of his bogus version of "parental alienation syndrome." It mystified me, because not only did I never keep the kids from their father, but I was the one who paid for the phone bills and plane fare to connect them with their father. The very person who accused me of P.A.S. "kidnapped" one of my children--the vulnerable child who has never been able to stand up to that parent and say "no, that's not OK." Shouldn't one of the other prime duties of parenthood to not take advantage of a vulnerable child and use them as a pawn?
You can read more about what has happened to my kids over the last couple years here, and here and here. 
I miss my child so much! It has been almost a year since I have been allowed to see my missing child. I have requested time, and time and again for contact with my child and been told "no." Oh, and by the way, in case you are new to this blog--I am primary custodial parent of this missing child.
This has definitely been a situation of direct and willful violation of the prime duties of parenthood. By the way, the siblings of this kidnapped child very much miss their other sibling as well.

"The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive
is how our words and behaviors affect the rights and well being of others."
(Sharon Bower)

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Give an inch...

As a parent, often times it is not at all surprising to turn around and see that when we give our kids an inch -- they have taken a mile. Even though it may not be surprising, it is always disappointing.

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